A New Pair of Shoes = Confidence at EVERY Age…(or is that just my excuse?)

Here I go AGAIN! Writing about the excitement I find in SHOES. Call me a GIRL OBSESSED! ARGH. As you who follow me know, I have written about the importance of shoes for babies in, “It’s All in a Girl’s Shoes,” and the fun of shoes for babies and toddlers in, “Bubblegum Scented Toddler Shoes,” and I’m about to share a combo about the importance, fun and my plain LOVE of shoes! Can a new pair of shoes help build confidence???I purchased my sons each crib shoes (shoes for fun to put on while they are babies and can’t crawl or walk that mainly match their outfits). Sounds like a HUGE waste of money, right? That’s what my hubby said. But I purchased them when they were 4 months old and starting to use the walker in the house and when we would go outside (I bought both pair on clearance at 50% off). I think it’s important that they get used to the feeling of wearing shoes. Like my post about my daughter’s shoes – her first fitting for shoes she was just 10 months old THAT DAY and that same evening, she walked for the first time. I think shoes give them balance and extra confidence a bare foot or sock foot with grippers don’t quite give (my opinion of course!) There are so many cute shoes for girls – (I could’ve spent a fortune but I DIDN’T!) But for my twin sons, I decided to go with Robeez which are known for having a snug fit that are more difficult for baby to kick off.

Why Robeez? “Robeez footwear mimics bare feet by flexing and bending with every step. Supporting not constricting growing feet, they promote good balance and unrestricted growth, while protecting little feet from the world. They stay on too, with elasticized ankles to ensure a perfectly snug fit.” From Why Robeez? They also have a downloadable shoe sizing chart (download Robeez Foot Sizing Chart). Love these little shoes with their orange soles for summer!  

This is my little Maxton who took to “walking” immediately in his walker just like his agile big sister. He will also soon be crawling and I am putting his Robeez on to ensure he has enough “GRIP.” So that’s my story on confidence for my boys!

You recall my post about bubblegum scented toddler shoes made by Mini Melissa? I decided against them just a few months ago because I wasn’t 100% sold on a pair of plastic shoes for a toddler (even though I grew up in the original era of “jellies” and had a ton!) The Melissa Brand shoes smell like bubblegum. Yes, bubblegum. They are a sustainable plastic shoe that is infused with a perfume that smells like bubblegum. Made of PVC recycled plastic, these “mini” versions of the adult Melissa line, are seriously “adorbs.” I must say, I was on the fence as to whether or not I wanted Mattelyn sporting a pair of bubblegum scented plastic shoes. But the sales associate assured me this is one of their biggest sellers for toddler sandals in the spring and summer season. WHO KNEW. While shopping recently for a pair of new shoes for myself POST PREGNANCY, we ran to the children’s department at Von Maur so Mattelyn could look at the train they have displayed and to “smell the Melissa’s,” now something Mattelyn likes to do. LOL. 😉 And lo and behold, the very pair of black Mary Janes with brown bows that I fell in love with were on sale 50% OFF. Yep, we bought them.

Mattelyn was thrilled, wore them out of the store, and sat in her car seat knotted like a pretzel with both feet pulled to her nose repeating, “Mmmmm! Smell, mama!” That evening (and every evening since) she runs to put on her new shoes and tells her daddy everyday when he gets home from work, “Look my new shoes.” So cute, I had to share!

And, Mama got a new pair of shoes too. My first pair of shoes for “going out” after my pregnancies. (Read, first pair of HEELS since giving birth). I LIVED in heels in my not so long ago previous life as a career woman. You couldn’t find me without heels on one, because I am 5’2″ tall (or should I say short!?) And two, I worked in a fast-paced downtown advertising agency and my title of Executive ensured I would wear heels the rest of my life! (Which was fine by me!) But even when they came out with tennis shoes with platforms, I was IN because I just couldn’t wear a pair of flat shoes. Needless to say, as with everything else – EVERYTHING CHANGED WITH BABIES. I am sure I will get back to my heels someday – but for now, none of my old heels fit (my feet grew a 1/2 inch with both pregnancies). So I have a GORGEOUS array of beautiful shoes just waiting to be donated. I can’t part with quite yet, but I did get rid of my first “round” with the birth of Mattelyn. Second round is soon! My birthday is today and my anniversary with my husband was yesterday. So this weekend, we are leaving the babes at home with my mother and father-in-law who have offered to drive up to stay the weekend to watch them – – that is two 7 month old twins and a rambunctious 2 year old. I am nervous about leaving them – the thought of not saying goodnight and giving hugs and kisses is REALLY difficult for me. Plus, I am hormonal as all get out…just ending breast feeding. I may have some post partum baby blues! They will be in loving care with their Mimi and Papa and I have no worries that way, it is just the initial leaving them all. *I am positive I will cry all the way downtown. Poor hubby.* I tried on a pair of new shoe boots with a good, sturdy, thicker heel that is only 3″ tall. They are a neutral color and I think will be a perfect complement to my attire for Saturday night’s outing on the Riverwalk along Chicago’s Riverfront that we are planning to do with a couple of close friends of ours who live downtown. I am excited and somehow, in my warped mind, I think having a new pair of shoes will give me the confidence and extra excitement I need to GET ME OUT THE DOOR Saturday night! (I will post a picture of me and my new shoes during our date night Saturday if you are interested at all in seeing them!)

Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend! Please share your favorite shoes for baby, toddler or yourself! I always want to know what I’m missing out on!

XO ~ Your Shoe Obsessed Mama

It’s All in a Girl’s Shoes…

Mattelyn “walking” with grandma’s help at 6 months when she began pulling up on furniture.

I debated writing about this topic in my blog. I assumed I would probably get negative responses but decided I not only wanted to write it – I feel like I HAVE to write it for other new parents out there. (Not that any of you are taking advice from me, but perhaps adding it to the back of your mind!)

I probably bought Mattelyn 10 pairs of shoes before she was three months old. KNOWING she wouldn’t wear them for any amount of time at all and knowing they wouldn’t stay on her feet. But the fact is, I love shoes and I love her as a baby IN her shoes. It completed her outfits and made for the cutest photos. That said, I never thought about them functionally. She couldn’t walk, so why would she need shoes? Right?

Baby Center is an online resource that I have gone to throughout my pregnancy and through Mattelyn’s first year. When Mattelyn began showing signs of an inclination to walk around 6 months, (pulling herself up, furniture cruising, pushing her toys in a standing position and “walking” holding our fingers), I looked up “walking and shoes” on Baby Center and ran across this article. “Is It True Babies Need Shoes To Learn To Walk?” The basic summary and learning of this short article is the answer is no, babies don’t need shoes to learn to walk. Crib shoes are for babies’ comfort and are stylish, says another article. I tend to agree with both statements and furthermore, my pediatrician made no mention of the need for shoes at her 6 month appointment. Nobody I was friends with or family made mention of shoes, other than to say that Mattelyn’s were cute. Everywhere I read said that a baby will most likely begin walking between 9-12 months and that all babies develop differently. As a side-note, I 100% subscribe to this knowledge! My wonderful family dentist tiold me his three children (all 18+ years of age now and in college) didn’t attain teeth until they were two years old. Some babies walk at 6 months and some walk at 2 years. I don’t hold Mattelyn to ANY developmental milestones because of this variance. It is wonderful to watch her grow at her own pace and I welcome her little individual milestones because they are all HERS and hers alone. No one else can compare to what she is doing because she is programmed her own way from the beginning. That is the background to my purpose in this blog.

Mattelyn is currently 10 months and 14 days old. Since right before her 10 month birthday, she had been letting go of furniture and standing on her own taking small, daring steps – as long as she didn’t think we are looking at her. It was astonishing to watch. She would fall down and get right back up and try again. I say daring because I could tell there was trepidation but it didn’t stop her – such a courageous little soul. We patiently stood by watching her and encouraged her by asking her to walk to mama or walk to dada – always met with collapsing, rubber legs – as though she wasn’t interested at all, but we knew she was. One Saturday about a week ago, we were out with friends who have a baby girl 6 months older than Mattelyn. This friend of mine has really been a wonderful resource and friend when it came to my pregnancy and now with baby, she even gave Mattelyn her babies first crib shoes and winter boots with fur! (Yes, we are BOTH lucky!) While we were out, she asked me where her shoes were? I mentioned that she had been trying to walk. She said I should take her to get her fitted for shoes to at least see what size she was. <ENTER EMBARRASSING FIRST MOM MOMENT>, “What size shoe does she wear? A four?” My reply, “She doesn’t wear shoes, she wears socks with rubber grippers.” At that moment, I made a mental note of everything she was saying. The next day, we took Mattelyn to the mall to the Stride Rite for babies and kids.

The level two baby area at Stride Rite.

WOW, were my eyes (and my husband’s eyes) opened to something we knew nothing about. Here she was already in a whole separate category in the store – she was in level two’s – we completely skipped the “crib-to-crawling” level one shoes. She was measured by a knowledgable staff member and Mattelyn stood with the BIGGEST smile on her face and looked up at everyone encouraging her to walk. It was the cutest thing I had seen in a long time. But there was something special about that event taking place – it was as though she KNEW something was going on. Her little mind was processing it all – taking it all in.

Mattelyn getting sized at Stride Rite for her first shoe fitting.

All the confidence in the world!

That evening when we got home, after a car ride discussion that consisted of, “Wow, how did we miss all of that??”

Mattelyn got out of her car seat and within an hour, she was cruising furniture and letting go taking steps. In front of us, while we were looking on. The next day, she walked across the kitchen floor into my husband’s arms. You can watch her do it here.

A couple of thoughts –

This doesn’t change anything or prove anything. She might have walked at the same time with or without shoes. Had she had the experience and been fitted for the crib-to-crawler shoes, and then the walking shoes when she was first showing signs, perhaps she would’ve walked sooner. Who knows and quite frankly, it doesn’t make a bit of difference. My point in sharing this story with you is, I was astounded by the sheer CONFIDENCE it gave her. It was clear and obvious in the store. And then it was almost like a magic wand had been waved, she walked the very next day. And not just a few steps – across the kitchen floor – and she has never stopped since. I know now that shoes do make a difference and I guess 6 months seems awfully young but if a soft-soled shoe can add to encouraging their already rapid development and somehow make them more comfortable, then by all means, I am a huge advocate! I have a feeling this will be met with comments about the rubber-soled socks (which I am also a huge advocate for – specifically my favorites were Trumpette and Osh Kosh for fit and style – they don’t fade or get the lint balls when washed) and about how “barefoot is best” because they are using their toes to learn how to balance. Soft-soled level one and two shoes are also made so they can use their toes similar to being barefoot. I agree with both and understand the need for both. They need to be barefoot and they need time to just wear rubber soled socks! But I also think that getting sized for shoes is important as well – whether you take them for the experience or just print Stride Rite’s Sizing Chart  – really accurate and handy! I kept the one from the store and marked her size and the date. The associate said their feet grow a size every two months or so and you can continue checking on the size chart and date. When you go to purchase the right size shoe, make sure they are soft soles while they are babies.

Good luck and happy confidence growing! I hope this was helpful and I would LOVE to hear your thoughts and if this sparks another first time mom or dad experience you had that I have yet to look forward to, would you mind letting me know? Thanks in advance for that knowledge – I welcome it!

XO ~ Stephanie